You don’t have to say yes when you really want to say no. You don’t have to make decisions based on what you think the other person wants or needs. You don’t have to do it because everyone else is doing it.

A yes or no, the best decision, the right choice is the one you make that honors what you really want for you, how you want to feel, and who you really want to be in the world. No one else can make those choices for you, you have to make them for yourself. You’ve got to answer the question: What do I want?

It’s curious how many people cannot answer this question. And curious, too, are those who know what they want but are afraid or stuck or are filled with so much doubt they set their desire aside.

This is a reminder: you have one life this time around. This is it! What do you want? Take a step in that direction. If you’re not sure how to start, ask for some help. Don’t let another day go by without making a decision about your life. It’s too important. I mean, it’s your life!!!

Get used to asking this question every day, all the time, about everything. Pause. Ask and answer. Make conscious choices. If you don’t know for sure, give yourself a minute. Most choices are not life and death choices. Sometimes the answer can be: I’m not sure. At that point, don’t give up…just be with it. You’ll know. Trust yourself.

I think that’s the bottom line. Learn to trust yourself. Ask the question and trust the answer.

It’s your life. Live it for you.
And always be kind.
Paula